Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Choices

It's been one of those weeks around here...  The hubby's been a little crabby.  I'm a little crabby.  (My headaches are bad again...)  There are choices to be made about how we're going to handle the holidays this year - where we'll be when, what we'll be doing, how we're going to spend money, what charities to support...  So many choices that it's beginning to make us a little crazy.

And then a friend posted this story on Facebook this morning:

"John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, 'If I were any better, I would be twins!'
He was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, 'I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time.  How do you do it?'

He replied, 'Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or...you can choose to be in a bad mood
I choose to be in a good mood.'

Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or...I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.

'Yeah, right, it's not that easy,' I protested.

'Yes, it is,' he said. 'Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood.
You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life.'

I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.

I saw him about six months after the accident.
When I asked him how he was, he replied, 'If I were any better, I'd be twins...Wanna see my scars?'
I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.

'The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter,' he replied. 'Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or...I could choose to die. I chose to live.'

'Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?' I asked.

He continued, '...the paramedics were great.  They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action.'

'What did you do?' I asked.

'Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,' said John. 'She asked if I was allergic to anything 'Yes, I replied. 'The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity!'

Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.'

He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude....I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.
Attitude, after all, is everything.

'Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.' Matthew 6:34.

After all today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
Everyday you have two choices."

I like it.  Thanks, Sunni!

Things I am thankful for today:

1.  A late start.
2.  A manageable headache.
3.  Laughing with my boss.
4.  Sending out the invites for our Christmas Open House!
5.  A Culver's burger (I've never had one before...  They're REALLY good.)
6.  Snowflakes.
7.  Interesting opportunities.
8.  The Ella Fitzgerald Christmas music station on Pandora.
9.  More "Living a Better Story" stories rolling in!
10.  Book group tonight - if I can keep my head together...

2 comments:

Beth said...

I love this and it is a great reminder! Some days I don't want to make any choices...

When my students say things like "Mrs so and so makes me mad" or any other feeling I tell them "no one can make you mad, it is your choice to be mad!" They like to argue with me...but then it slowly sinks in!

Carol E. said...

I recently discovered Culver's burgers, too! Yum!

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